I realized recently that I’ve sort of been in mourning as my 12-year-old — my baby— doesn’t really need me anymore. The 16yo is fairly self-sufficient and the 19yo is a one-man show. The oldest boy is on the cusp of turning twenty-one and is planning a wedding with his bride-to-be.
Tie all of the above in with a husband who
formerly was gone 12 hours a day, 5 days a week but is now around almost 24/7, telling me to get off the bleeping computer has retired and is now doing most of the cooking along with part of the shopping, and you have a midlife crisis for a Stay-At-Home-Mom.
Also? We don’t even have crocuses popping up through the ground yet. This picture was taken last April in our yard in Virginia.
So… here are five things I am doing to get myself over this hill (because at 46, there is no doubt that I have gone as far to the top as possible):
1. Signing up for every retreat that comes my way that I can possibly afford. Last weekend was a 72-hour (3 days, 3 nights) scrapboooking retreat. Coming up in April: Moms’ Weekend at my kids’ university, 3 days and 2 precious nights away on my [almost] annual Girls’ Weekend, and even a weekend with my MIL and all 3 of my husband’s sisters (for my MIL’s women’s church retreat).
2. Yoga with my new DVD friend Suzanne Deason. My dh picked it up at Mom’s house when we were cleaning out/going through STUFF. I don’t know if she ever even watched it, let alone try it. But I’m finding it helpful.
3. Getting active and losing weight . Even though I have plateaued recently (as in, for the past 2 frustrating months, please pass the chocolate!) I do feel better just by doing daily yoga and moving more. My feet disagree, but there are NSAIDs for that.
4. Getting a referral to a podiatrist. While this resonates with “old lady” for me, I can’t ignore my feet any longer. They hurt. I’ve had varying difficulties with plantar fasciitis for almost 8 years now. I put off asking for a referral for years; now I’m actually looking forward to my appointment!
5. Having my hair cut by a professional — it’s been 2 years since I went to a salon to have my hair done, but that omission was corrected on Tuesday afternoon. Same basic style as I’ve had for years (I don’t like change, I’ve had enough of that lately as it is) but it sure feels nice!